Updated: Feb 6
"On Second Thought?"
Ambivalence is chronic uncertainty.
What's the best course of action? You may feel paralyzed, unable to move in either direction. But when you remain stuck on the fence, it’s difficult to commit to any relationship, business, personal, spiritual. Ambivalence is an uncomfortable state, as it puts your life on hold and sabotages your pursuit of happiness. It’s actually better for
you to hop off to either side of the fence than to stay on it!
“Make a list of pros and cons.” ( Do it, procrastination is not allowed)
Listen to Your Body. It’s so much easier to listen to what’s going through your head. For one thing, it speaks in your native tongue. It can be trickier to listen to your body, because there are no words. Instead, your body speaks in physical symptoms, including:
Cravings for sugar or other substances ( these are the drugs for ambivalence)
Hives or other skin eruptions
Restlessness, twitching, or nervous habits
Chronic pain, such as in the back, neck, shoulders, or jaw
Of course, any of these symptoms could indicate a physical or dietary problem that should be medically or nutritionally treated. But many times these issues can be psychosomatic, a reflection of stress and unexpressed emotion.
In fact, after ruling out disease, a doctor might tell you, dismissively,
“It’s all in your head.”
If they do tell you this- Find a new doctor Immediately.
This is unfortunate, because what you really need to be told is "Your body is trying to tell you something and your mind refuses to listen! " When you listen to your body, you can get clarity about your quality of life and whether there is stress to address.
Gut-level assessments and physiological expressions of emotion. It can tell you how you really feel about your options. By quieting your mind and tuning into your body, you can consciously consider the information it holds and act accordingly.
You can benefit from listening to your body when it comes to relationships, as well as other big life decisions, such as taking or quitting a job, moving your household, or making a big purchase.
Now that you’re listening to your body and finding direction, here’s your Polaris: Whatever your next move and whatever happens, don’t settle for love that’s fleeting or merely based on the excitement of new romance. And don’t go searching for love. True love appears, when you least expect it and most need it.
It usually has a very funny story that comes with it… not always but often.
Think about the kind of person you want to be with, and become that person. For instance, if you put your energy toward being a loving and happy partner who is willing to communicate and grow, you’ll attract someone who is loving and happy and willing to communicate and grow. Setting your sights on your own lightness of being, that's how you attract lasting love.