Updated: Dec 17, 2021
The world's leading deception researcher, Dr. Cal Lightman, studies facial expression, body language and tone of voice to determine when a person is lying and why, which helps law enforcement and government agencies uncover the truth. But his skills also make it easier for him to deceive others. Very unique.Watch Lie to Me Season 1 | Prime Video - Amazon.com
Spotting deception is surprisingly difficult. Know what to look for beyond studying shoulder shrugs and body language, because deception has other apparent signs.
When people are vague about details and resist providing specific particulars they may be concealing a lie. The same is true when they become repetitive and talk in circles. In some case they may even be trying to convince themselves of what they are saying.
When a person doesn’t speak in full sentences, and instead answers with short, terse statements they may be lying to you.
When you want them to be specific and provide details about something, ask them directly or challenge them. If you don’t get a clear-cut answer, they may be lying to you.
Nervous behavior is another sign of deception. If someone seems uncharacteristically nervous, they may be lying, especially if the situation isn’t one that warrants nervousness. You may want to analyze their honesty if they are dealing with what should be a familiar subject, but appear nervous when discussing it.Just knowing the signs isn’t always enough. If you are skeptical and think the other party is lying, decide how much you are willing to trust them. Have a checklist and go through it in your mind.
There are four basic ways to identify whether someone is deceptive.
Listen to their voice. Are they nervous, like they are avoiding the truth? Pay attention to the words they use. Some may help you identify deceptive signs.
Do they have deceptive body language? Look specifically for unusual nonverbal communication, curious gestures or uncomfortable body movement. Ask for their story to be told in reverse. Sounds silly I know, but if someone takes you through a long, drawn-out tale that raises your eyebrows, figure out if it’s true or not by asking them to tell you what happened by asking questions out of order. If they have to think too hard about their answers, they could be making things up.
Finally, when you try to figure out if someone is deceptive, trust your instincts. We have instincts for a reason. Trust them. Your unconscious mind picks up on cues that you miss as you go through the interaction.
When people lie or act deceptively, they usually have a reason. Some may do it to be polite, saying they like something they really don’t care for. But it’s still deception. Saying, “I don’t really care for that, it’s not my favorite thing,” is being honest. Honesty is a true reflection of who you are. And you have fewer things to worry about.
The Truth Never minds being examined.